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There is no safety net
There is no safety net
My middle child has recently moved back with her father and me. She has been working since she was 16 years old and she was a certified CMA and is working on becoming a Physicians Assistant. She had lived with her sister for several years, but well they’ve had a falling out. No I don’t know why and I don’t do that interfering thing or prying as if I would get straight answers from two different sources anyway.
So, she has 0 dollars and 0 cents to her name at the moment. She has a temporary job. She still has bills, like a car payment, phone, and other things you need to have to get a job and keep a job in today’s job market. She is now working as a temp at a UPS center. Monday she gets a job upgrade so it will be a little more money.
Now, as for what I believe is going on is that my daughter is very likely bi-polar. She believes she is Wonder Woman at times and takes on way too many things at once like working full time, going to school full time, and trying to walk 7-10 miles a day. She has only recently realized that she has anxiety issues and that she might be bi-polar. She hates the medication she had taken a year or so ago, so she stopped. Most the time she is a very responsible person, but like I said at other times she gets into situations because she things she can do it all then she crashes.
We are working on finding resources to make her financial situation better. She has never used a food shelf, but she is going to have to get used to that. I introduced her to Fare Share so she can reduce her food bill a bit. She is going to apply for Medical Assistance so she can get her allergy medications and possibly she will look into medication to deal with being bi-polar if that is the case.
I think we have a whole lot of people in this country that have mental health issues that aren’t diagnosed they are the walking wounded and they aren’t diagnosed because they are functioning to a degree, they are bright, and articulate. So, their mental health issues go unnoticed. They don’t ask for help themselves because we have a culture that shames people with mental health issues and still thinks that a person should pull themselves up by their boot straps even if those straps are cut to pieces.
If you appear to be physically healthy and are both bright and articulate, there is almost a 100% chance that if you find yourself homeless you aren’t going to be able to access things like SNAP or get a General Assistance loan to help ease your temporary or permanent entry into the world of unemployment.
I am confident that my daughter will be able to hang on until the 2nd of September when she gets her first check. I have a bit of money I can loan her for food and gas. But, as I type this I wonder how many people have no family at all to help them in this kind of situation that has very likely been made worse by some undiagnosed condition or even without a condition at all. Sometimes life alone will throw you a curve ball and several crisisies hit them at once like an accident or illness ,a major car repair, and a lay off for example. There is nothing out there for an apparently healthy adult who has run into life’s problems if they don’t have any family at all to rely on they are going to be living in their cars and they are going to be hungry at least until they can get a first check, we all know that can take up to three weeks after you have gotten a job.
And all this isn’t to mention the shame of having no safety net not even for our returning Veterans. We have a long long long way to go before we can claim we give a damn about people who need help when we don’t even care about Vets, students, and other vulnerable adults. This isn’t a call for help, this is just a rant pure and simple. Perhaps I will add my own rant to the forum as I have a whole lot of issues as well, but for now this is what I am currently dealing with and it’s so much worse for my daughter who is living the nightmare of trying to get a job, to pay off her summer class, get brakes for her car, make the payment for her car, and feed herself without having to depend on other people to bridge the gap. Like I said I can help her out now in the short term. But, what I haven’t mentioned until now is we are going to have to work together to find a long term housing solution for both of us. I don’t feel we can stay with her father he is completely stressing her out by second guessing everything she does including what she decides to eat.AnneD, Utopian Leftist, Pam and 13 othersDragonfli, Enthusiast, grouchomarxist, GreedKills, BuySellTrade, MistaP, historylovr, TheNutcracker, 7wo7rees, Downwinder, LiberalElite, Marym625, zazen like this
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